"Always remember a Free Woman's best weapon is Her mind. Keep control of Your temper and check Your attitude act with style and grace and You will find that the question of a weapon will rarely come up." I know this is a quote from the books of Gor but I can't remember where I got it but have kept it…. To me this is what a Free Woman is about.

From Marauders: " I know of no prouder, more self-reliant, more magnificent creature than the free Gorean, male or female: they are often touchy, and viciously tempered, but they are seldom petty or small: moreover they do not hate and fear their bodies or their instincts; when they restrain themselves it is a victory over titanic forces; not the consequence of a slow metabolism; but sometimes they do not restrain themselves; they do not assume that their instincts and blood are enemies and spies, saboteurs in the house of themselves; they know them and welcome them as part of their persons; they are as little suspicious of them as the cat of its cruelty, or the lion of its hunger; their desire for vengeance, their will to speak out and defend themselves, their lust, they regard as intrinsically and gloriously a portion of themselves as their thinking or their hearing. "

I do believe that real life is indeed the most fulfilling for both Free and slave, but realize that many will never have real life and that on line is a venue to full fill their needs. I do not judge what is right for another if they are honest about what they seek and what they can give. If a person comes on line and is upfront that it is just role play and that is all they seek, I have little issue of it but to come on line and profess that you're a dominant and live this life in real and have it all be false is a waste of everyone's time and energy.

I believe that on line commitments can be strong and one can live as an honest Gorean life style as on line allows. In reality I don't believe any of us can truly know who another is until we have met them. I do believe a collar should be a solid commitment from both people and taken seriously and not used as toy.

I believe in the principal that most men are indeed dominant to me at least physically. I believe that most Free Woman will find an Alpha male that she will submit to. I don't believe that submitting is any where the same as being a slave or being a mans possession.

I have enjoyed my relationships with many on line slaves as human beings, I have no envy or desire to be in there position. I admire that they have the heart and the skills to be a slave. For anyone to submit to another takes commitment and strength because your allowing another to direct you. I know that many feel a slave has no choices on line or off line, which to me is hog wash… we all have choices we can allow and even commit totally to another but we make that choice and hopefully freely.

From Priest Kings of Gor: "The Gorean woman, for reasons that are not altogether clear to me, considering the culture, rejoices in being a woman. She is often an exciting, magnificent, glorious creature, outspoken, talkative, vital, active, spirited. On the whole I find her more joyful than many of her earth-inhabiting sisters who, theoretically at least, enjoy a more lofty status, although it is surely true that on my old world I have met several women with something of the Gorean zest for acknowledging the radiant truth of their sex, the gifts of joy, grace and beauty, tenderness, and fathoms of love that we poor men, I suspect, may sometimes and tragically fail to understand, to comprehend." Pg 67

As a Free Woman I have a obligation to be true to myself and those I am responsible on line and off line. I need to do that with honor and grace. I believe that I need assist and encourage those male or female who in my charge to be the best they can be and that if I own them (as much as anyone can own another) then I need educate and direct them to my needs and their well being. In doing so if I have done it well they will also be satisfied and grow in their submission.

"Do not ask the stones or the trees how to live; they cannot tell you; they do not have tongues; do not ask the wise man how to live, for, if he knows, he will know he cannot tell you; if you would learn how to live do not ask the question, its answer is not in the question but in the answer, which is not in words, do not ask how to live, but instead proceed to do so." (Maurauders of Gor, p.9)

In real life I have found few true slaves, but also few true dominants. Most of us male and female have a little of each in us depending on the real life situation. Some are trained and skilled at being Master/Mistress. Just because one has read the Gorean series and find those books to be the guide to being a slave or Free it is so much more then the books could possibly be. I think that real life, and life experience make us Free or slave. I think by genetic make up and evolution males are the stronger.

My Father was a dominant and my mother his submissive. In this very 1940's match my mother was a stay at home mom and my father the wage earner. My mother ran the home totally and took care of the children but the minute stepped through the door my mother was seeing to his needs, from drawing his bath , getting him a beer , unless one of us kids were sick then we came first. To be honest did my father consider himself a dominant I would doubt that, he acted the way his father acted and probably his father before him. My mother was born in Italy and for her to not be submissive to my father would have been almost unheard of.

Times change and because we lived in a rural area I was sent away to a Catholic boarding school and I was raised amongst a group of very strong willed and yet submissive woman. The leaders of the church are all male and still are and the woman in the religious life must be strong to survive such a male dominated existence. I learned from these wonderful Sisters that I had many choices in the world out side and choice was that was serving in nature and yet required knowledge and strength.

There are some that would say that woman working out side of the home was the beginning of the destruction of male dominance. Society and economy and our own choices have made that decision and each must deal with that in a way that works for them. I think that the woman's movement has put a good deal of pressure on men and woman. I am not a feminist in the Gloria Steinham way, but believe that is I do a same job as a man then I deserve the same pay. I have no wish to be a man , why would any woman want such a thing? When men on line tell me I am to prim and proper that I present myself as a man hater, I always laugh to myself. Just because I don't roll in the furs with every FM on line and am polite and distant does not make me a man hater. It makes me a FW who in real life and on line have no desire to serve all men. Even all men who I consider dominant to me. My place is to show respect , to those that have earned it and shown themselves honorable and not just chest thumpers spouting quotes from the books.

I would hope that all that come on line would be honorable but we all know they are not and use there caps as a way to be a brutal fool. There is a good deal of difference in control and dominance. If I have no control over myself , my behaviors my actions how can I control another?

It is difficult on line Gor being a Free Woman. I here so frequently that I am hiding behind my veils and I truly wish to be a slave. The expectation is that Free Woman on line will be polite , modest , charming and take all the baloney that every Free Man and slave have decided a Free Woman is. I try to pick a moderate ground and be true to myself and I know who and what I am in real life. I am prim and proper , I am a dominate female , I will submit to a Alpha male. I find it all rather simple it is others who make it difficult. My life in real life is about choices just as Gor is. I try to make good choices for myself and those who come to me for advice , protection or friendship.

A Free Woman pays a tremendous price in submitting to a more dominate male. You have admitted for the first time that a alpha male is stronger not only physically but emotionally then you. You have chosen to submit to one man and have given him the permission to find all your soft spots. There is fear in that , in failing to please him and being able to show the soft femine side that is so important for any woman to have. Regrets, certainly there are always regrets , being a dominant implies that you will not bend easily and that you will question till your satisfied with the outcome. Submission , at least submission with trust is that you will accept from your Free Campanion.

"The meaning of history lies not in the future. It is like a range of mountains with many summits. Great deeds are the meaning of history. There are many meanings and many summits. One may climb different mountains at different times, but each mountain glows in the same sun." (Beasts of Gor, p.33)

"There is no single humanity, no single shirt, no correct pair of shoes, no uniform, even a gray one, that will fit all men. There are a thousand humanities possible. He who denies this sees only his own horizons. He who disagrees is the denier of difference, and the murderer of the better futures." (Savages of Gor, p. ?)

"Human females are such rich and wonderful creatures. Their sexual life, feelings, are subtle, complex and deep. How niave is the man who believes that having sex with a woman is so little or so brief a things as to fall with the parameters of a horizontal plane, the simple stimulations of a skin, the results attendant upon a simplistic manual dexterity. How woefully ignorant are the engineers of sexuality. How much to learn have ever her artists and poets! Women are so inordinately precious. They are so sensitive so beautiful, so intelligent and needful. Mo man has yet counted the dimensions of a woman's love. Who can measure the horizons of the heart? Few things , I suspect are more real than those which seem so intangible" Blood Brothers of Gor, pages 181-182

I have used quotes from the book that I feel are significant to me as a Free Woman , does this mean that I follow all of the books and all they say ? No certainly not, I think like all I have picked quotes out that relate to me and my reality. I am glad I have chosen this path. It works for me and in my world off line and on.

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